How to Balance Life with a Newborn AND Toddler

Hummm, good question!

Did you think I would actually have the answer to this? Ha! Gotcha!

All I know is that it’s not easy but I’ve learned a few things very quickly that I’ll share with you.

When it’s 2 against 1:

1. Always have a snack ready for your toddler when nursing your newborn. This will ensure your toddler’s belly has some food in it and she is happy.

2. Have your toddler’s potty close by, along with toilet paper. You never know when they will have to go and while nursing a newborn you can’t just stop when you want to or they will LOOSE it.

3. Nurse in a location that your toddler can play in with her toys.

4. Have conversations with your toddler while nursing and it’s okay to promise her a treat afterwards. The treat does not have to be food related, it can be reading a book together, playing outside just the two of you or something else.

5. Patience! I clearly need a little more patience.

It’s a struggle to balance life with a newborn and a busy growing toddler. Take it one feed at time or one day at a time and it will get better….at least that’s what everyone keeps telling me. ­čÖé

I recently came across this on Facebook and had to share it. It’s from Shine like Stars.


Slow down Mummy

Slow down Mummy

Slow down mummy, there is no need to rush,
slow down mummy, what is all the fuss?
Slow down mummy, make yourself a cup tea.
Slow down mummy, come and spend some time with me.

Slow down mummy, let’s put our boots on and go out for a walk,
let’s kick at piles of leaves, and smile and laugh and talk.
Slow down mummy, you look ever so tired,
come sit and snuggle under the duvet and rest with me a while.

Slow down mummy, those dirty dishes can wait,
slow down mummy, let’s have some fun, let’s bake a cake!
Slow down mummy I know you work a lot,
but sometimes mummy, its nice when you just stop.

Sit with us a minute,
& listen to our day,
spend a cherished moment,
because our childhood is not here to stay!

Rebekah.Knight (c)2011
Shine like stars


Since I am cuddling with Hilary as she sit’s in her sling on me, I think I’ll go sit and just stare at her.

24 Hours with a Newborn and Co.

Having a newborn around is one of the sweetest things ever – they smell good, they cuddle, they look at your eyes intently, oh and they poop lots! This is what our day (24 hours) looks like with a newborn and toddler…it’s not pretty – oh wait it is at times.

Let’s start at midnight…..

12 am Hilary and Lilly have been fast asleep. Sai and I may have had 2 hours at this point.

3 am (roughly) Hilary and I get up to nurse, this is our best of the day. Quick, painless and everyone is happy. I may change her diaper twice but she’s content after the feed and eager to cuddle. She doesn’t burp well so she ends up laying on my chest for a while so I can try to get the burps out.

Lilly sometimes wakes up at throughout the night…but Daddy to the rescue and she’s back in her bed (most nights).

4:30 am Hilary and I are finally asleep after nursing.

6:30 am Lilly is up and cuddling with me in bed, Sai is getting ready for the day (walking our dog etc).

7 / 7:30 Lilly is up and having breakfast with Sai; getting dressed, making lunch etc.

8 / 8:30 Hilary is up and feeding again. Lilly and Sai leave for day care.

9:30 I eat breakfast and maybe get dressed (ha)

11 ish I nurse Hilary again.

Mid day – I get a little lunch in me and Hilary naps. Laundry, dishes and a┬áfire put on and other random stuff get started but not always finished. I check email, Facebook and my blog randomly throughout the day when time permits.

3 ish I nurse Hilary again and then bundle her up to head out the door.

4:30 pm We pick up Lilly, get home and play.

5 -6:30 pm We make and eat dinner. Sometimes nurse Hilary again!

7 pm Bath time for Lilly usually by Daddy as I’m nursing Hilary. She get’s ready for bed and hopefully in bed between 7:30 – 8pm. This has been a struggle lately as she wants both of us in to say goodnight and I am with┬áHilary. Hilary seems to cluster feed between 6-10pm and can’t get enough milk in her but then sleeps for a good 4-6 hours.

9 ish Hilary is hopefully asleep. I sometimes finish laundry, dishes or spend a few minutes with my husband before going to bed.



BUT, I wouldn’t change a thing.